When You Feel Discontentment and What to Do About It

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It doesn’t seem that long ago that I posted my goals for 2013.  I’ve learned a lot in the past year about many things — parenting, God, homeschooling, blogging, marriage and definitely myself.  Just to name a few.  🙂

And while I made some great strides on my goals for last year I also failed miserably at some of them too.  (I’ll be writing an update about all of that in a few days.)

One of the most important things that I learned about myself in the past few months is that I compare myself to others entirely too much.  And while that can be a good thing (I think one should always strive to be better and do better) it can also be very, very dangerous.

And I was living dangerously.

I was beginning to live in discontent.

The Bible has a lot to say about being content in your circumstances. (See Phil. 4, Heb. 13, 1 Thes. 5)   I am to have joy and contentment in all things!

I’ve taken the past several weeks to do some soul searching and realigning my priorities with God’s.  I’ve intentionally stayed away from most of the wonderful blogs I read.  Not because these women aren’t great, Godly women, but because my selfish heart wouldn’t stop comparing my life with theirs.

I’ve intentionally stayed away from this blog.  How can I post about being a happy homemaker if I’m living with a spirit of discontent?

Thankfully, and only through God’s help, I am dealing with these issues.  I know discontent is something I’ll have to continue to guard myself against and I know it won’t always be easy.  But who said life was easy, eh? 🙂

If this is something you are dealing with right now as well then I urge you to find joy and contentment in your surroundings.  Maybe try some of these things that helped me:

— Get in God’s Word.  It’s hard to be discontent if you’re in the will of God.  Study, memorize, pray and immerse yourself in the Bible.
— Recognize your triggers and stay away from them.  In my case, I unsubscribed from some of the blogs I read until I could get myself back to the place I needed to be.
— Write down reasons you have to be thankful.  Make a list and keep adding to it.  When you feel the discontent rising, take out the list and read it again.
— Remind yourself that your situation is unlike any other.  Every family is different.  Every person is different.  Your strengths may be my weaknesses and vise versa.  You can’t compare apples to oranges.
— Realize that the real world is not Pinterest perfect.  The bloggers you read usually show the best of themselves.  The pictures and posts you see on FaceBook are usually putting their best foot forward as well.  Most people don’t show their dirty floors or less than perfectly manicured hair and face when they allow you a glimpse into their lives via social media.

So don’t beat yourself up because your family life is not like the Joneses.  Just be the best person God made you to be.

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2 responses »

  1. It never takes long to get our hearts aligned with God when we open the word. Always the best place to begin. Being online can take us away from our real lives and the real people God placed in them. I think you were right to step away from the computer and regroup. Comparison is a thief. Here’s a passage from 1 Cor. 4:6-7 that instructs us to not compare people to one another and to ask ourselves 3 simple questions.
    Now these things, brethren, I have figuratively transferred to myself and Apollos for your sakes, that you may learn in us not to think beyond what is written, that none of you may be puffed up on behalf of one against the other. For who makes you differ from another? And what do you have that you did not receive? Now if you did indeed receive it, why do you boast as if you had not received it?

    The challenge is to be all that God made us to be and leave the results with Him, without dejectedly shrinking from our calling or boasting of our accomplishments. In reflection and prayer I know you’ll find the right balance.

    Blessings.

    • Thank you so much for your comment! Comparison is definitely a thief — and a tool that Satan uses all the time! But if I keep my focus on what is important (God) then you start to realize all of that trivial stuff really doesn’t matter.

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